I would never ask him to get rid of his animals because that suggestion is beyond cruel. Dog owners who pretend their mutts children should be banned from dog ownership they pretend no one else harmed yet are likely responsibility of injuries/deaths and I truly believe passive aggressives with strangely inflated misguided egos where they are center. I do not hate my girlfriends dog I am just worried about our relationship because she works so much its hard for her to start taking the steps to end the anxiety and fear and because she was wrongly crate trained as punishment its impossible to rewire the dogs brain to thinking its a safe haven. It seems like the overwhelming majority of people who are adversely affected by dogs seem to like dogs but believes they should be treated like animals rather than four-legged humans. And youre out of here. Im very attached to him. The other issue is she is so lazy with him. He of course used to let her sleep in his bed like a person and she stinks like nothing Ive ever smelled. He sees the dogs as his babies and cant do any wrong! I dont want the responsibility of training the animals and feel no affection for them though I tolerate them and do want to make sure they are fed and not neglected. If I sneak table scraps to the dog, he gets furious because Fido cant have wheat products! I mean, COME ON ITS A DOG! Anyhow if you have to rehome the dog, dont just look for a shelter. he kept insisting that the dogs had to be on the bed, there was black dirty, a TON of hair and even drips of pee on the sheet! Dogs/cats do not have the propensity to fill the void of another human being. Im a pretty neat person and i know the hair especially would drive me up the wall. Sam Basso Do NOT tell me my dog is messier than that. They come with all their own little quirks and needs and personality traits. I could never get a night sleep, because they would be jumping on and off the bed, start whining in the night, wanting to go out to pee in the middle of the night. He says Im the sick one being jealous of dog. My dog doesnt go in the bedroom or the study, only the living room and the kitchen. I mean, dogs shed. No amount of combing or baths on one of our hairy dogs can help her stinking or shedding. So Ive been dating this guy for almost 3 years now, I recently moved in with him. The huge red flag: a couple of weeks into our relationship my partner said he had to tell me a secret and that he hoped I would understand. The cause of the sore is unknown to us but I a wondering if her contact with the dogs might be something to consider. Have faith that what you feel is correct. So to get to my story, I moved in with my Gf about 4 years ago. Get advice from a dog behaviorist: But, you shouldnt do this right away as you realize the reason. )this dog is awful! Over all though shes a good dog. He is not used to being yelled at all the time for not doing anything wrong and it is tearing me apart. It wasnt until another dog came into the picture (my girlfriends roommate at the time) and all things started going south. When the cat-killer came into the house, I put the plans to declaw the kittens on hold and in the process the dog and cats have destroyed a brand new carpet and generally make a mess. So if you find yourself second to an animal in a relationship, save yourself a lot of heartbreak and get out! My DH would tell me I was selfish. The Japanese Chin has bitten nine other people that include young children and adults and most of those bites have broken the skin. My dog ran out the room first and me second. Keep in mind that he coaxed her with deer which is her absolute FAVORITE. I have a few other tips that you need to be aware of. You would have to question anyone that gives an ultimatum regarding your dogs. They were shaking so bad and drooling from immense fear. She is not misbehaved whatsoever. Besides the above, supervising its water intake, choosing the correct brush, choosing the correct shedding tool are also can impact the amount of shedding in your dog. So I can not even let my purse be on the floor! I left him alone with my little dog and strangely he was hunched over and in a lot of pain. I dont understand!!!! Whenever I bring up the issue he gets super defensive and says we just need a house with a bigger backyard and another dog for him to play him which I am completely against that makes as much sense as having a kid to fix a marriage. Wow. Is there a way to train her that would get the desired results without requiring a large investment of my time or spouses time as I expect our energy will be eaten up by trying to care for twins? There wasnt one day that I would go to her place without getting drool all over my pants that looked like someone blew their nose on my leg!! I was used to Rocky sleeping with me. My wife and I agreed that if the dog bit our little ones (before our first child was ever born) that the dog would have to goshe has reneged on that agreement upon the first bite. He keeps going on about how the dog is older and has always been by his side, I seriously can never win! I refuse to leave with a dog that stinks like s***. As soon as he is here its bitches drama. I accepted that but after a while he changed his mind around my birthday and, quite unexpectedly, decided that we go for it. Instead we come out realizing that there are dog-obsessed freaks out there. Its their HUMANS that I blame! Dan, I certainly understand wanting to continue the relationship. I really need my husband to get on board with the dog. He in turn is asking me to consider giving up my home, friends, and family to move to a different state to be with him. i said uhmmmnooo.extreme much? i just cannot see how i will be happy if we all live together. Thats when my hell began. Then we decided until she was potty trained fully, theres no sleeping in our room. How do any of you that do this have a good sex life?! But he just tells me we cant give her away. I was fooled into thinking that my boyfriend could have become more into pets in the aftermath of something he deems traumatic to himself. They do NOT understand human speech. Whenevr I try to address the issue, she gets pissed off and doesnt want to talk about it. Her ten year old is just the older Yorkie that is sick. Any advice at this point is much appreciated. Oh, and yes he takes the dog in the shower with him too. So, there is no need to change. It was confused, anxious, and in pain. Sure they make great companions, but they also require boundaries in the home and animals will always be just that, regardless to how some people try to anthropomorphisize them. Clothes included. These are reasons dogs arent allowed on furniture, especially the bed where you lay your head. She wasnt taught any manners. I love my Partner, I hate her dog. Make sure to strictly adhere to that advice if you really wanna keep the dog. I have never in my life seen a dog that sheds soooooo much hair. You should come up with a new idea every day because this learning process never ends, and you will see great success as time goes. Or when your dog is allowed to claw people, hump, jump on, bark at, ect ect what looks cool about this? My SO tried to downgrade this saying oh, he wont really bite or i dont think its a big deal we got into a huge fight over that one. You need to either leave the boyfriend, or give the dog to a family or owner who will care for the dog and not mistreat it. He wont eat and acts weird. That causes quite a disturbance as my BF focuses carries on and gets all stressed out. Its gotten to the point of threats: harming them or killing them, and driving me to suicide, as I suffer from anxiety and panic attacks. Theres no excuse for peeing in the floor. I still miss her. They think its ok to be controlling but dont like it when that is challenged for good reasons. It jumps on dinner table begging for food and has scratched the couch to death( we had to get a new cover for the couch) i tried to accept it and invested my time in training it, it responded and stopped doing the bad things for a while but my husband messed with its brains by deliberately putting her on the couch/bed and giving it treats on the couch inspite of me pleading not to, that the cat has gone back to its despicable behaviour. I finally got her to agree to keep them out of our bedroom. My husband Hates her behavior but really loves her and cuddles with her. Idiots owning idiots. I told myself if the marriage ended, I would Watch for signs of this in another man. This is the ONLY dog I have ever disliked sooo much.. It feels so annoying when you hear heavy barking for long hours, even at night. Well sorry you are going through this. Reddit and its partners use cookies and similar technologies to provide you with a better experience. Being vexed with the husband/boyfriend isnt a solution. people need to act like people. My partners huskies shed like mad, and if he didnt brush them every day there would be a carpet of dog hair everywhere. Ive yet to see a site that discusses the possibility that dog fanatics people who worship their pets as baby humans, rather than those who enjoy their dogs as pets may have issues, and that those issues are health neither for pets, their owners, or their real-world relationships. I didnt get any attention except when he asked whats for dinner. She did the bed thing ONCE in the beginning and I only got one hour sleep and was a wreck the next day and said never again. Im 51 years old and we have been together for nearly 30 of those, i still sexually find her atractive and dont want to go! In Peru, they smack them with a stick and then eat them. It wasnt worth the argument because theyll never get it. Shes also not fixed so when she has her menstrual cycle she will bleed spots all over the home. He rarely listens to my fianc. My husband knew I loved animals and before now he was OK with it. (He used to tell me on our early dates (together four years), that were dog oriented, how people looking at us giving glances were checking out his dog (not me). Later the same day, I walked in the living room and watched him pick up her muzzle and plant his lips on the side of her face moving his head right to left and left to right, like a hard kiss of passion. Some dogs tend to shed terribly with shedding skin in gross amounts. Here are several tips to minimize the issue. I agree with Charlie, you will never be first. It might be a little difficult for the dog at first to adjust, but that is what proper training is for. I loved them, played with them, protected and cared for them, but they never usurped my relationship with a member of my family or a man. He said the dog would look at him at night and then would get off the sofa and go to bed. The dog drives me crazy. The mistake that people make is treating animals like a child. She constantly is dropping her slobbery toys in my lap. This is the biggest load of BS. She is not a bad dog, is very obedient, but my life is nothing but white dog hair right now. Are you sure its just fur rather than lack of feeling important to youmore than an animal? I truly Im not fan of this dog and I want him out the bed. People so often posit their relationships with their pets on nothing beyond feel good feelings they get from the pet being fully dependent upon them, when they would never accept that type of arrangement with another human being. The next day she started cowering a lot, like we abuse her. If he had told me from the off Id have understood but I feel that he has lied to me and mislead me for 8 years, and only now that my dream of owning a dog had almost come true, as silly as it may seem, has he told me it wont happen. And then the excuses is, but you know I had dogs! So, its worth reading. Drool xs 2! He is confined to his bed and his yard and it makes me sick. Yes animals can feel! I dont want to come home to a house that has pee and poop all over the place, hairs all over, dogs that are misbehaving. He says Beau always has to be outside. Oh hell no. Love from a non-mongamous creature the same as every other human? and has a nasty, intimidating growl anytime another dog comes near those things. It can be considered the middle but if your partner is like me, the dog can pose serious health problems. I havent mentioned amy of this to him because i think it sounds petty. They are smaller dogs and use his house as a toilet. 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